Developed by: Farrah Khan
To sustain ourselves and our movements, remain open to possibilities, cultivate our creativity and have the greatest impact, we need to invest in a vital resource: ourselves. Self-care is both a radical practice and a necessary part of creating lasting social change. We hope this list inspires you to create and commit to some individual and collective self-care practices for the rest of the year.
It’s ok to grapple with what it means to take care of yourself when your communities are continuing to face challenging systemic issues, your family and friends are in need of support AND work demands continue to pile up. However our health and wellness MATTER. Taking care of ourselves is a radical and necessary part of social change. Yes, there’s lots happening in the world and lots to do, but you matter too.
It’s important to remember the origins of self-care conversations as they are easily glossed over. For us, the most important contributions have been from Audre Lorde, Black American writer, feminist, womanist, librarian, and civil rights activist. She saw self-care as a radical act, one that could help her community survive oppression. If you have not already I highly recommend reading her seminal book Burst of Light.
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Burst of Light by Audre Lorde
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski,
Care Work, Dreaming Disability Justice by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others by Connie Burk and Laura van Dernoot Lipsky
The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor
Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman
Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma by Staci Haines
Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Caring for Yourself is A Radical Act: A Self Care Guide for Youth Workers by Farrah Khan
Mindfulness Skills for Trauma and PTSD by Rachel Goldsmith Turow
Compassion Fatigue, Burnout and Trauma Exposure
Beyond the Cliff | Laura van Dernoot Lipsky TEDx
The Edge of Compassion | Françoise Mathieu | TEDxQueensU
The Zone of Fabulousness: Resisting vicarious trauma with connection, collective care and justice-doing in ways that centre the people we work alongside. Context. August 2019, Association for Family and Systemic Therapy, UK, 36-39.
Bessel van der Kolk identified preconditions for trauma in his web talk Nurturing Our Mental Health During the COVID-19 Pandemic the slides are available for viewing here.
The preconditions for trauma include (1) Lack of Predictability (2) Immobility (3) Loss of Connection (4) Numbing Out and Spacing Out (5) Loss of Sense of Time and Sequences (6) Loss of Safety (7) Loss of Sense of Purpose
To support oneself during trauma van der Kolk recommends: (1) Taking Action (2) Feeling Grounded In Time (3) Being In Synchronicity with Others (4) Creating Schedules, Future Orientation (5) Establishing Safe Physical Touch and Establishing Privacy
How to Survive the End of the World: Episode A Breathing Chorus with Alexis Pauline Gumbs
Brené Brown Unlocking Us Podcast: Episodes: (1) Anxiety, Calm + Over/Under-Functioning (2) Dr. Marc Brackett and Brené on “Permission to Feel” (3) Comparative Suffering, the 50/50 Myth, and Settling the Ball (4) Tarana Burke and Brené on Being Heard and Seen
Suggested Citation: Khan, Farrah. (2020, October). You Matter Too: Resources for Self Care. Courage to Act. www.couragetoact.ca/blog/selfcareresources